Respect, compassion, empathy and listening are key (1 Corinthians 13).
Apologetics usually revolves around discussion and reasoning. It is easy to think about it as a debate and lose sight of the person you are commanded to love. You are striving to win a soul, not an argument. Here are some suggestions:
- Ask questions. This is a book that gives good, practical advice on how to engage people in discussions: Tactics by Greg Koukl.
- “Answer science with science and faith with faith.” Faith-based answers to science-based arguments rarely work.
- Pray and rely on the Holy Spirit.
Resources
Strongly recommended:
- Evidence That Demands a Verdict by Josh McDowell & Sean McDowell - This is a major resource covering a number of key topics including evidence for the Bible, Jesus, prophesy, miracles, and other hot topics.
Other recommended reading and videos for apologetics:
- Mere Christianity by C. S. Lewis - this Christian classic is an excellent example of a common sense, reasoned approach
- The "Case for..." series by Lee Strobel (Case for Christ, Case for Faith, Case for Miracles, etc.)
Recommended videos for apologetics: